Faith for Flourishing

As business leaders and entrepreneurs, one of the quickest ways to hinder our growth is by personalizing the difficult relationships we inevitably face in the workplace. That irritating co-worker, the micromanaging boss, the unfair client – it’s tempting to view them as adversaries and enemies. However, this perspective only breeds resentment and stagnation. Moreover, if you are trying to live out your faith, difficult people must become recipients of your Christian charity.

How do we do better with difficult people? Consider this metaphor: the difficult people in your office (or business) are like the weights in your gym. The heaviest barbells may be challenging to lift. But with practice and dedication, you build the strength and skills to handle heavier weights. Difficult people should be viewed as opportunities to build your diplomatic muscles and thicken your skin.

If we can’t deal with the petty office politics, how will we stay calm presenting to a ruthless board of investors? If a condescending client unravels our confidence, how will we persuade a crowded arena during a keynote speech? Every difficult relationship is a chance to level up our leadership abilities.

Rather than plotting revenge or seeing difficult people as enemies, reflect on what skills this challenge is presenting an opportunity to develop. Can you become a better communicator, or learn to lead with compassion? Can you learn to “read the room” better? Are you being called to set better boundaries? Build trust? Advocate for yourself or others?

The difficult people in your office or business will make you stronger, as long as you view them as tools and not the enemy (yes, “tool” is just so perfect there). Stay focused on your growth, stand on your values, and difficult relationships will forge you into a better leader. The tools are not your enemy.