Successful relationships require both partners to work together as a team, embracing a “we” mentality instead of focusing solely on themselves. This shared sense of purpose and unity is crucial for fostering a happy and healthy partnership. To strengthen the “we” in your relationship, consider the following tips:
- Make decisions together. Don’t just assume you know what your partner wants – ask for their input. Discuss big choices like moving or having children as a team.
- Set shared goals. Maybe you both want to save up for a dream vacation or work on establishing healthier habits. Identify desires you have in common and work towards them hand-in-hand.
- Alternate compromises so it’s not always one partner doing the sacrificing. True compromise involves meeting each other halfway.
- Say “we” not “I.” Subtle linguistic shifts orient you towards teamwork. “We should invite the neighbors over” vs “I think we should invite the neighbors over.”
- Establish shared rituals. Make the relationship itself something you nurture together – whether it’s a weekly date night, taking a dance class or volunteering in the community.
- Display unity in public. Don’t talk negatively about your partner to other people. Be each other’s biggest cheerleaders.
- Express “we” in affection. Say things like “we make a great team” and “we complement each other so well.” Celebrate your combined strengths.
The beauty of a long-term partnership is creating something special that’s greater than the sum of its parts. Lean into the power of “we” – you’ll be amazed at how much you can accomplish when you work in harmony.
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